"It is in the times that you are down that you'll know who is willing to stay with you throughout and is not going to leave you alone to weep. "
They say that losing something or someone is the worst feeling in the world. Be it a lover, a family, a friend, or simply a thing that is very important to you. All our life we are wanting to gain something and losing it is just not the way that we want for our life.
When something is lost to you, what do you do? Move on? Sure. Depend on time to ease the pain you felt? Yes, I am sure that the feeling will not be as overwhelming as the first time the lost has happened to you.
But what if the same loss happened to you for the second time?
You manged to help your self on your first loss, you did everything you could just to make everything alright despite the weakness in you. You became strong for yourself. Then, because of your strong will to fight, the unthinkable happened. Everything became fine. You were back to normal again.
Then, the second loss happened. It's like going back to the overwhelming days of problems that you already gotten over with. You start again from scratch, squeezing your mind to find another set of solutions and it just suck. Who wants to go back to their dark days anyway? Nobody.
The good thing about loss/ problems is that, you'll know who will stick with you and will not leave you. And it just feels good to know that they are there for you no matter what. Those people who will never judge you and will still accept you after seeing you on your weakest, your imperfections.
We might grieve when something is lost to us but this is the happy part: when we let time work for us, the feeling is not as overwhelming as the first time you experience that loss. Somehow, time lessens the burden we feel inside us and it will let us think clearly and it can help us manage our emotions more. We can use that for finding solutions to our problems and to make ourselves whole again.
Getting over with dark days is not easy. It is really helpful that we have good and trustworthy people around us that will become our allies in facing the tragedies in the world. After all, no man is an island, which is very true no matter how stereotype the line is.
I believe in the saying that "we can learn to be strong if being strong is the only choice we got."
And I thank the people around me who are my allies.
They say that losing something or someone is the worst feeling in the world. Be it a lover, a family, a friend, or simply a thing that is very important to you. All our life we are wanting to gain something and losing it is just not the way that we want for our life.
When something is lost to you, what do you do? Move on? Sure. Depend on time to ease the pain you felt? Yes, I am sure that the feeling will not be as overwhelming as the first time the lost has happened to you.
But what if the same loss happened to you for the second time?
You manged to help your self on your first loss, you did everything you could just to make everything alright despite the weakness in you. You became strong for yourself. Then, because of your strong will to fight, the unthinkable happened. Everything became fine. You were back to normal again.
Then, the second loss happened. It's like going back to the overwhelming days of problems that you already gotten over with. You start again from scratch, squeezing your mind to find another set of solutions and it just suck. Who wants to go back to their dark days anyway? Nobody.
The good thing about loss/ problems is that, you'll know who will stick with you and will not leave you. And it just feels good to know that they are there for you no matter what. Those people who will never judge you and will still accept you after seeing you on your weakest, your imperfections.
We might grieve when something is lost to us but this is the happy part: when we let time work for us, the feeling is not as overwhelming as the first time you experience that loss. Somehow, time lessens the burden we feel inside us and it will let us think clearly and it can help us manage our emotions more. We can use that for finding solutions to our problems and to make ourselves whole again.
Getting over with dark days is not easy. It is really helpful that we have good and trustworthy people around us that will become our allies in facing the tragedies in the world. After all, no man is an island, which is very true no matter how stereotype the line is.
I believe in the saying that "we can learn to be strong if being strong is the only choice we got."
And I thank the people around me who are my allies.
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